Child custody is sometimes a contentious matter because each parent wants what they feel is best for their kids, and those opinions might not always be the same. That can make negotiation with your co-parent very difficult and tense.
There are many things that you can do to reduce the stress that comes with child custody disputes. Reducing the stress around the situation can help both you and your co-parent work together for the sake of your shared children — and that’s where the focus needs to be. Here are three tips for your success:
1. Be open to exploring new ideas
There are often several options that can resolve a child custody situation appropriately. The key to choosing the correct one is thinking about how each of the options will affect your children. Be willing to hear your co-parent out, even if you think you have better ideas. Just showing that you’re willing to consider their thoughts seriously can have a positive impact.
2. Focus on the present (and future)
The past played a primary role in how you got to where you are, but it shouldn’t have any part in what happens from here on out. Leave the past behind and focus on how you can improve your child’s life after your divorce unless the past is directly related to some kind of safety concern.
3. Aim for civility at all times
Politeness and civility with your ex-spouse can set the tone for your co-parenting relationship in the future. Treat every conversation like you’re speaking to a business contact — and stay focused on the business of parenting.
Developing a written parenting plan can be hard. Working with an experienced attorney can help you explore all of the possible options for your future.